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The Cyberhug Award

Just when I thought I had sworn off awards forever, Rashmi of Mind and Life Matters nominated me for this adorable and thoughtful award.  She and I met during Blogging University and have been friends ever since.  She is a hardworking single mom, talented writer, and brilliant techie! (Not official title of her job description, I believe it’s actually analyst, but I have no idea what that means!) Her wonderful blog is inspiring in both matters of the mind and life.  She speaks with authority as one who escaped an abusive relationship and put her life back together to successfully raise her son.  Her positive and sunny outlook is infectious!  I am absolutely privileged to call her my friend!  Please go and check out her blog! So here are the rules of the award.

The Award Rules:

  • Anyone who’s human (and cats, I’ll accept cats although they don’t really like being squeezed much).
  • Submit a small paragraph on why they need a hug
  • Provide their email address and/or their url.
  • When you’re nominated, you must in turn nominate the person who nominated you.
  • Winners (that would be everyone that’s nominated) will get an Official Cyberhug Award Certificate through email. Display it or the Official Seal on your website (impress your friends!), or possibly even print it out if you’re really lonely.
  • Successful Nominees will be eligible to enter the draw to win a truly special set of 3 Cyberhug Gift Certificates for free hugs (how good is that?!). Priority will be given to those who have either gone above and beyond to help people out, are amazing, or need more than one hug.
  • The Draw shall be announced each week on a day of my choosing (depending if I get out of bed or not), or another day or just when the mood takes me.

My nominee:

Arpita from It’s Arpita’s Life.  She is a 20 something lawyer from India who travels a lot and shares her wonderful wanderings with the rest of us.  She has recently embraced a minimalist lifestyle and is chronicling the experience.  I would like to send Arpita a hug for being so supportive to me as a new writer!  She featured my debut novel as her book of the month for November, she has tweeted about it and always has such positive things to say.  People like Arpita can make your day when you’re feeling discouraged!  Hugs to you, my dear!

I know this is a busy time for her, but I hope she decides to accept the award and keep the ball rolling!

Diary of a New Writer 7 – You got to move it, move it!

(Rather than ‘reinvent the wheel’ on the subject of publishing, I’ve included several helpful links.  Also here are parts one through six.)

Now that I had polished up my novel, proof read, made corrections and bribed my beta readers with wine and Wegman’s gift cards, it was time to put this thing out there!  Again, I was confronted with two choices:  try to find an agent and publish in the traditional way or self publish on Amazon and Smashwords.  (Smashwords will let you publish your e book on sites like iBooks, Kobo and Nook.)  Let’s be clear, neither one is right or wrong, better or worse for writers.  However, I bet if you took a poll of all the Indie Authors out there, 90% of them (I made that up) would have the same or similar experience as me.

Finding an agent to represent me sounded like a good idea.  It would take away the pressure of marketing the book.  Everything I read about self publishing told a similar story:  you need to work very hard, tirelessly, in fact to get your book noticed among the thousands of other works being published every day.  I just wanted to write.  By now, I knew I wanted to make Three Empty Frames the first in a series of novels.  Having an agent handle all the sales and marketing would free me up to do that.  I googled “finding a literary agent” which led me to Writer’s Digest  and querytracker.net.  I found the names of some agents, wrote a query letter and started sending them out.

How does one write a query letter, you ask?  Here, read this: How to write a query letter.  Also, make sure you are following the guidelines for submission to your agent.  Not everyone asks for the same things.  Some might want a whole chapter, some just the first 5 pages, etc.  Also, this should be obvious but, don’t waste time sending letters to agents who don’t represent writers in your genre.

Now for the bad news.  It may take 6 weeks to 3 months for an agent to even respond to your letter.  When and if they do, it may go something like this:  “Thanks so much for sharing your work with me.  I believe it shows great potential, however, it’s not quite the right fit for me.  Good luck in your endeavor!  Regards, Agent X.”  To be fair, these agents are being bombarded with manuscripts all day, every day.  Frankly, if you haven’t caught their attention in the first paragraph, you’re toast.  Perhaps this does not discourage you.  Plenty of famous authors got rejected over and over before they finally got recognized.  Here’s a list:  50 Iconic Writers Who Got Rejected.

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I couldn’t take it.  I found myself nearly on the verge of tears every time I got one of those sweet little “thank you-but” notes.  (Ok, truth be told, I only sent out about 6 query letters.  That’s how fragile my ego is.)  Besides, this book was sitting there finished.  I wanted it out there already!  I am not a patient girl.  That’s why I finally went with option number 2:  self publishing.

Does that mean I can’t still query agents about my book?  Nope, I can still do that.  In fact, I should still do that!  There used to be a stigma attached to self published authors, but no more!  If you’ve managed to actually sell some of your books, you can include your sales figures in your query letter.  Assuming *cough* they are impressive enough to attract an agent!  Anyway, I’ll tell you all about my experience with Amazon and Smashwords next time!

#tbt Arizona and New Mexico

I’ve had my head in research on The Great War for the past couple weeks and frankly, it’s bumming me out.  For a change, I thought I’d share some photos of a trip to the American Southwest.  I live in the Northeastern part of the USA, which is the complete opposite in climate and terrain.  Hope you enjoy the pics!  Cheers!

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We stayed at a spa resort in Sedona called L’auberge, which in French translates to “the inn”.  This is our little casa.  And the restaurant at the spa where we ate one night.  I sampled the charcuterie plate including dried, cured bull testicles!!!
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Hiking one of the many awesome trails in the Sedona area.

We drove north to the Grand Canyon.  After the helicopter tour of the south rim,

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I had a chance to relax!  (Can you tell I have no fear of heights?)  And we drove this:  the Camaro SS model!  It was a lot of fun because…

The roads look like this!  Ahem, let’s just say, we traveled in excess of the speed limit!

Here’s more Grand Canyon:

    In the painted desert, we visited an ancient Native American settlement:IMG_0503

See the circular enclosure in the center the photo below?  Apparently Ancient Americans played some sort of ball game in this court!  Sports, it seems, is timeless!

Happy Thursday everyone!